Relationship Help Show, 23/08/2017
Did you have a trying time raising teens? Maybe, you're doing it right now. Teen's brains are still developing, and we often don't understand what that means. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you know what it means for teens to "have no remote." Guest, Donovan Dreyer, creator of the Solving Our Stress tool, shows why we need different approaches to talking with teens, and how to help them articulate the stresses they are under.
My topic: Riding the Waves of Raising Teens. Your teens are going through something, and you have to ride with it, providing the best direction possible. Their brains are changing, their hormones are rising, and they can't recognize any of that. That's where you come in...and maybe, kicking and screaming. But, they're yours, so here's some hints to help you ride safely.
Guest: Donovan Dreyer
Donovan works with families of teens who are puzzled with the various teen challenges. He helps them go from reactive to responsive, then all the way to proactive in the design of healthy routines, so that family life improves and the teens are empowered to take off to realize their dreams.
High School Counselor
Coach of The Teen Team
Founder of Get Ready Coaching
Donovan's refusal to settle for less than his true calling moved him from a plan to be a pilot, through the family business, past stock trading to school counseling. The next step in the evolution of his passionate plan is to leverage all that he has learned in 16 years as a school counselor to make the most powerfully profound difference possible as a life coach. He helps create trusted teen teams that groove new healthy routines so teens are fueled for takeoff toward Destination Dream.
The Relationship Help Show: Handling Hijackal® Havoc offers the insights, strategies, and skills you need to recognize what's really going on in the crazy-making relationships in your life. Relentlessly difficult people and relationships in can cause you to constantly second-guess yourself and question your sanity.
Get relationship advice directly from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Learn from her expert guests. Each one has a very unique voice on solving relationship problems with particularly difficult people
Are these relationship issues on your mind?
- Are you with a Hijackal? Free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, Hijackals.com
- Want to know how your relationship can shift and you can grow closer?
- Or, need to know if it's time to leave?
- Need insights into troubling behavior patterns?
- Want to deepen your emotional intimacy?
- Need to distance yourself from toxic people?
- Can't communicate...or someone won't?
- Trying to figure out what's your problem and what is theirs?
- Does every conversation quickly become an argument?
- Have you been discarded by a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal?
- Are you with one? Or, leaving one?
You will get help with those here!
What is a Hijackal, exactly?
A person who hijacks relationships–for their own purposes–while scavenging them for power, status, and control.
They make you question your sanity and second-guess yourself constantly. That’s their game…and, they are very good at it!
Every time you think of being near a Hijackal®, you get anxious. Why? Because the main purpose of Hijackal behavior is to win.
Recognizing chronically difficult people requires admitting that they not only like to win, they have to win. Yes, to win…and in all circumstances and at all times. Yes, they will give you the illusion of agreeing with you…but, only when it suits their purposes, or their longer “game.”
Know one? I’m thinking you must because you’ve found yourself here on this page with me. You’re ready to escape the Hijackal Trap.
It might be your partner, ex, parent, co-worker, or someone in any organization–family, workplace, government, court, church, community project, board, or association.
We have all had interaction - at some level, at some time - with a Hijackal... whether we knew it or not. They are unavoidable. AND being in a relationship with a Hijackal - whether at home, work or play - requires some insights and knowledge to navigate and keep yourself safe and sane.
Those are the things we discuss a lot here. Join us.