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Redefining What It Means to Be a Man with Taylor Draper, and Having a More Peaceful Life with Sharon Valenti

Every Day Peace with Dr Dravon James

Redefining What It Means to Be a Man with Taylor Draper, and Having a More Peaceful Life with Sharon Valenti

Taylor Draper, the CEO, and co-founder of Inherent created a men’s apparel line in response to dealing with depression and the need to recreate his self-image. Plus, Sharon Valenti, a serial entrepreneur, coach, and teacher, has managed to lead in the world of business with integrity, sincerity, and honesty. Her diverse business endeavors have empowered her to be able to coach others into becoming their truest selves and live happier lives.

Every Day Peace with Dr Dravon James

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In today’s busy world it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and disconnected. Dr Dravon James helps to inspire, empower, and educate people to live the life of their dreams. Focusing on health, wealth, and relationships, Dr. James offers strategies that work for everyday life.

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you know the familiar Christmas story but did you know every person or place in the story represent the part of you we all have the inner purity of Mary the rampant ego of King Herod and the wisdom of the Magi Mary and Joseph journey is our journey to discover the Christ born in us read this fascinating interpretation of the Christmas story in the trip to Bethlehem by hypatia Hasbrouck visit Unity bookzz.org trip to Bethlehem<br> we're glad you found us<br> this is Unity online radio<br> the voice of an Awakening world<br> Empower yourself and get inspired to build the life of your dreams<br> welcome to Everyday peas with dr. dravon James<br> hello and welcome to our show on Doctor Dre Bond James and this is everyday piece well I'm super excited to have you here with us today as we explore the concept of living a life of Peace everyday peace defined as wholeness completeness nothing missing nothing broken totality my goodness I would love it if you could just breathe it in for a moment take a deep breath in expanding that belly forward and hold it for just a second and then exhale completely pushing the belly button all the way back to the spine and all the while knowing<br> yes<br> everyday peace holness completeness nothing missing nothing broken totality is possible right now this very moment in your like yes you deserve every day peace and yes you can have every day peace we work together on this show to bring you the topics and the guests to partner with you as you create your life of Peace everyday and if you missed last week's interviews I really highly encourage you to go back and listen to those because last week we had the very talented and gracious Christie Hoffman joining us she is an intuitive healer a teacher at consultant and she spoke on the importance of connecting to your spiritual team yes each and every one of us has a spiritual team and she talked about how to do that and why it's important to do so we also had dr. Rachel Allen with us<br> dr. Rachel Ellis an author a holistic psychologist and yoga instructor and a relationship and sex therapist and she discussed her book the pleasure is all yours I'm a guide to help readers release barriers to receiving life's Pleasures in deeper connections with others so I highly encourage you go back listen to those shows you can access last week shows and our entire library of shows by subscribing to the doctor drayvon James everyday piece podcast on Apple Spotify Google play Stitcher or you can listen to them on the unity online radio. Org website another great place to get content and stay up-to-date on what's going on in the everyday piece world with Dr James Bond James is by visiting our new and improved Dr.Dre Bond James. Cam website when I say new and improved I tell you this website it changes and it updates so frequently if you were there last week<br> you have not seen this what website I highly encourage you to book market and visited frequently so on the website you're going to find lots of free giveaways guys you got free<br> and check out the two to three horses we have on there and your I really encourage you to go in there and look for other information that will be encouraging to you as well as an upcoming bring new brand new self-esteem courses on yours I am really think that you would find that very very helpful as you journey in life now as we are moving along in the year we are a quiz getting ready to close out 2021 very very soon but it's not over yet or not at the finish line yet and you know our anthem for 2021 was what are we waiting for now is the moment to take action and our life and with that I want to tell you that we have some wonderful things happening in the world of everyday peacemakers rehab a master class and absolutely free virtual Master Fest occurring this Thursday October 14th<br> at 5 p.m. eastern time you only need to register for it by going to my Instagram page at dr. Dre Bond James or visit my Facebook page which is everyday peace and his Clique right there and register for the free virtual masterclass that you got it I got to tell you what this is all about this master class is already mastering confrontation how many was today have had some type of conflict show up in our life we're going to be talking about how to master confrontations so I really want you to be there I really want you to be able to embrace the ending of this year strong and we know that we're not going to face next year with no conflict and confrontation it's got to be there we're going to be ready we're going to be strong we're going to know how to master confrontation and conflict like a promise I encourage you to be there for that just a quick everyday peace moment for us I want to tell you<br> we've been talkin about letting go of the past so that we can embrace the beautiful now and we've been going on with this for a few weeks and I want to tell you that the cherry on top of all of this as we've come to the end of this part of our discussion about letting go of the past is that learn how to get excited excited about what your journey with your journey is taking you to work to get excited about the path that you're on where it's going that let you take some of the attention off of where you've been what do you use all the pearls in the wisdoms when the past but we don't want to have any of the stagnation of the past in the great way to do that is to create some positive excitement energy about where you are going and I'm here to tell you where you're going is in a beautiful Direction so with that being said that is our everyday peace moment we're going to go right into our fabulous guest for today our first guest today is<br> Erin Valenti Sharon is a Serial entrepreneur a coach and a teacher she has managed to lead the world of business with Integrity sincerity and honesty Sharon's diapers business Endeavors hat and powered her to be able to coach others into becoming their true self and live happier lives welcome to the show she thank you it's a pleasure to be here I am super excited about this because I embraced wholeheartedly the concept of being the happiest person you know so living a happier life for many people is a lot easier said than done so today we were talking about how you can have a more peaceful life but uncovering your beliefs and questioning them in your specifically work a lot with a younger adults is that something that you see in that teen and young-adult population that there<br> having less Joy less happiness out of life 100% And it's a big concern I'm sure your audience is well aware of teen suicides are on the rise big time and I firmly believe that these could be avoided if the team's new and young adults in anybody actually if they knew how to recognize the underlying belief that they Gaines when they were very young that stuck for example mom might have said I'm going to punish you and the three-year-old you heard I'm a bad person I'm not lovable or Mommy doesn't love me and that stuck and then additional ones as we grow piled on top of that and they were reinforced with our peers and with our school teachers you get a bad mark on your paper and you take it<br> so you take it that you're dumb you're no good you're not likeable Etc and that overtime traits that pattern in your life where you just keep attracting more people like that more circumstances like that into life until these teams for example with the social media I believe it often times when they're looking for the likes they're taking it personally rather than understanding that the person is liking what they posted it's not about the individual yet they are due to the low self-esteem low self-confidence and all the other underlying belief or taking it personal. They're getting triggered over and over and over again I'm not good enough nobody likes me and the begin to isolate they become depressed they may feel anxious a whole host of feelings and emotions<br> take place and then they start to believe that nobody would miss them if they were no longer in the world and some take it. Ultimate step and I've lived that many of us have when we were teens and so I can really relate to this particular population and if I can help even just one of them convinced or turn her life around into something that is marvelous I listen to your intro about peace and people often say I just want peace in my life and when you say what does peace mean to you what people really want our peaceful thoughts you know if I have two people do you want the billion dollars or peaceful thoughts they think only for a split second and realize if it got peaceful thoughts you're not worrying about having a billion dollars you're, you're focused you're in the moment<br> I mentioned or you brought up the three kinds of businesses and they are yours and mine and the Divine and if you think on this the only time we ever suffer is when we are in somebody else's business<br> even if it's just in our mind and a simple example would be when we show up at Savers show up at church and we're looking at the people who are also attending and we got people watching were people judging right what were they thinking when they put that on oh my goodness look at that shirt and it goes on and on and on this shift that but somebody else wears and vice-versa it's ours and we do this<br> many times throughout the day without stopping to have the awareness that were doing it you'll be thinking about maybe your partner your boss or anyone else except yourself being in their business believing that we know what's best for them more than they know what's best for them and when they're non-compliant then we get all bent out of shape if we just stayed in our business were fine and if there's a tsunami or an earthquake that has killed hundreds of people yes that's a tragedy at the same time I'm powerless to do anything about that that's the divine's business whether earthquake happens and the consequences from it and it takes becoming more aware<br> what you're doing is thinking throughout the day and the promise if you just remember the three businesses and the next time you still upset just ask yourself who's business were you in<br> I have you ever have you ever done that and you know there is a phrase I hear people say a lot mind the business that pays you and it's sort of like a cultural way of saying we just what you said it bad that I have no it is no business of mine what someone else is wearing or and my mom used to always say if it concerns me enough to think about it it should concern me enough to pray about it right and so that is always been the trigger for me like if I find myself thinking something like or I could pray for that person right and but I love that there's three types of business mind yours and the Divine Right in real life where I am in a lot of this Mal contentedness I will say it that way for like I think with social media has been heightened because we are judging what we see on social media and comparing that to ourselves oh I see what he looks like<br> happy family and I know in my family I have these issues so therefore this is not a happy family you know or I see with me know what the latest car is I don't have that so I'm not I'm not you know as valuable as the next person so there is a there's a lot of value in what you're saying and just trying to get people to look inward how how do we do that though<br> there are a few things that I have learned to do overtime and one is not to argue with reality and I don't say that lightly but what I do understand is how do I know it should have happened that way because it did and I can't undo that instead of saying others shouldn't have a poor me your poor them if I accept that happened then there's no emotion attached to it I'm not arguing with anything I've accepted it happens get on with it, keep going backwards and into the past spring and into the present Mozart Gone Gone get on with the next chapter<br> if we are taught as as a lot of people are aware this we are taught from a very young age to look outside of our self for the approval for the appreciation for the love of the like the support and the truth is that's a big burden that we put on somebody else no one outside of ourselves know exactly what it would take to support you in the way you need to be supported you're the only one that knows that or it's not my job to luck you it's your job to love yourself it's your job to support yourself we're the only ones that know exactly what that looks like and the truth is we have no control<br> over anybody's perception of us ever so we can stop doing the Cirque du Soleil act trying to impress someone just like there's nothing anybody else can do that will cause me to perceive them a particular way that decision is wholly mine and when you learn to just give that up stop worrying about what people think about you you have no control over any house then you can begin to show up as yourself and you just that stress and strain is off of you once you understand that clearly no control over anything or anyone else and how do I know it should have happened that way because it did and I cannot change that all I can do is write a new story going forward and that can we have that power it's our life and if people aren't kidding when they say we create our reality all day long<br> we have story after story after Story that's going in our minds constantly all day one story after another so we really are creating our reality and can be driving home from the end of the workday or from wherever and you've got this whole story going about what you're going to tell so-and-so and blah blah blah and it hasn't even happened but it's so real in our mind and it's not true<br> I love this idea and it is the truth that we have to love ourselves which goes back to self awareness I Think You're So spot-on when you say that we're always looking externally always looking at storm if there's a problem well something externally caused it if something good happens to a this is because someone extremely cause that are the same external situation out there and instead of looking at the external world is the world of effects right that the creation happened outside of us but we we are the creative Force but many people live in this business where I find so interesting is many people believe that because something is going on in the world externally then they adjust their thinking to accommodate that they don't say okay that the thinking came first the thinking in the feeling in the beliefs about this thing came first and that's why<br> manifested the external situation so it's a whole shift in the way that we think and I love the fact that you say we are writing our own story I think if people thought of it that way is that you're honest age and you've been given certain props<br> you didn't get used to prop so you're certain life conditions that you would not have chosen but they showed up but you're you're in this life performance and you've got to decide whether or not you're going to be able to use that condition<br> it was something that bills in the direction that you want to go tours or something that holds you back for One Direction either either answer is correct but you get to get to be with you or what you do with those with these circumstances you get to be that Creator I think that's so very important and I know you know all going back to the three kinds of businesses when your focus more on yourself and we're not talking about being selfish you're talking about being self-aware when your focus more there you will have more desirable outcomes in your life rather than just letting it go haphazardly I agree with that 100% so we have these people specialize mostly but I can tell you that I know there are a lot of people in every age who really benefit from hearing this type of talk because there are people every day who lost the zest in the Zeal<br> for life<br> you know if there's sort of this sort of fighting along bleeding that they're not valuable they don't add anything significant they're not enjoying the journey what do you say to people like that to help get them motivated to get back in the game to get re-engaged to spark them ignited spark within within themselves<br> well it wasn't until my fifties that I really had a significant turnaround and that's when I learned about questioning my thoughts questioning the beliefs I had but also getting still enough to uncover what I was believing about myself it's always easier to blame somebody else for what's going on inside of me and I used to be standing behind the door and I walk threatened you say boo and the old me was it oh my goodness you scared the Daylights out of me not true all you said was Boo my mind Envision the boogeyman or something you're not coming to get me you didn't do anything other than say do it we do this constantly and you have to be or a person has to be sick and tired of being sick and tired and have a strong belief that their life can be different if you when we get into that victim mindset unconsciously<br> we're not even realizing we are a victim of our own thoughts<br> and then you see that other person whom you admire like how I wish I had a life like there's they're no different than you are it's possible to have a life like there's you just have to slow down beautiful dear Louise Hay people say or you have to love yourself and you have to get present but nobody ever gives the steps to do it and Louise Hay has this salads during one of those books if if you going you want to make yourself a salad for lunch and you pulled the left is that it's a bit wilted you like okay to pick up somewhat decent pieces and you cut the Soggy and off the cucumber and put the rest in your salad in the squishy Tomatoes you put those in and you make yourself a salad for lunch would you serve that same salads to me if I was a guest in your home<br> of course you wouldn't write you going by all new produce so that brings the question up why would you treat somebody else better than you would treat yourself and it's because we've been taught to do that let the company go first let them sit down first let them sit there so we're constantly trying to put ourselves on the back burner and to feel guilty if we try and put ourselves first Nike all these other things one-liners and hopefully your audience can think of ones that they hurts when were children are parents especially my generation our parents it seems to be a generational thing children should be seen and not heard boy shouldn't cry in a second up if you think of that children should be seen and not heard<br> what potential underlying belief as a young child could you take on about yourself<br> for me it was that I was unimportant I should be invisible well I'll be darned if that didn't show up most of my life now I'd be quiet I wouldn't supposed to speak unless spoken to I wasn't as children are my ignorance and public when I would ask what or why so I kept my mouth shut I was afraid to ask questions in case I would thought England for years and years so many of these one liners that we heard that if you could write them down and then sit and think what what Kelis did that close at me and then you'll find those underlying belief then you can see where have they been showing up in my life and it's so quiet and awake when you when you realize it when you see it it's it's almost like a small shock in the body are like oh my gosh I can see that's why I fell and so is in my life and this house<br> that happened because we're allowing it<br> hello thank you for calling everyday piece showed out to Trevon James we have our fabulous guest on the line here did you have a question or comment didn't she answer that but I do have another question I know I got to do for a quick so your guests talk about things that are underlying and wants childhood in that can have an impact and effect and I think that's true but don't you get to a certain point where when you become an adult that you can't use that as a reason even if that is underlying and also when you get to be an adult you mean I can remember I'm specially if these things happen when you at 3 for whatever the case if you know so I guess my point is how do you like how does that play a part when you become an adult and as an adult you have the responsibility to make choices and you can't just say well because I was a child has happened when I was a child this is why I act the way I act I think that I don't<br> maybe I'm no expert here but that sounds to me kind of like a cop-out<br> may I speak<br> yes oh yes<br> so it's your ex that you're right we can't how long you guys keep blaming parents or relatives or anybody else for what's going on inside of us a hundred percent right we have to take the responsibility for it as for the underlying belief know you're generally not going to remember those until you do specific kind of work and that's where I come in I have a a very simple format formula for getting those underlying belief to the surface very quickly and then a very easy process for question them to see if they're even true because they have been Our Truth for years we just have about 15 seconds left LR this is how they can connect with you how can they reach you you can reach me at info is it true. Com<br> info at is it true that cam thank you Sharon blind and you have given us so much Insight on how to get to are happier self info is it true.<br> discover The Power Within<br> Unity online radio<br> the voice of an Awakening world<br> create and build a life of your dreams welcome back to Everyday Beast with dr. dravon James<br> welcome back to our show I'm about to drive on James this is everyday peace I hope you enjoy the last second because we were steamrolling ahead we have a fabulous guests for this part of our show we have the fabulous Taylor Draper he is the CEO co-founder and co-founder of inherent a men's apparel line created out of the need to recreate self-image and healing mental health Taylor created the men's line as a response to dealing with depression we're here today to discuss redefining what it means to be a man removal of toxic phrases like man up and walk it Off Taylor welcome to the show<br> thank you so much for adding me it's a it's an honor to be here thank you in college one of the things I strive to do is to make emotional health part of his journey you know and and get rid of those faces like man up and walk it off I really do want to know what you're feeling I want you to talk about and connect to those emotions because I know that's part of the whole Human Experience so I am so excited for this conversation today yeah you say that you you begin your this holding lines in response to dealing with depression tell us a little bit about that<br> yeah absolutely I'm still about four years ago in 2017 my wife kind of came to me one day out of the blue and just had a concession really really hard things that she had done and we are kind of a tough situation or marriage we're well it should we stay together or is this the end so we decided to stay together and obviously hearing this kind of news is just so earth-shattering and I couldn't like think you're focusing on anything else for a really long time but I had a few businesses at that time that I own and I knew that when I would wake up in the morning to go to the businesses and private businesses and things like that I would put on a suit because I knew that putting on a suit would help me get enough confidence in myself to go kill it at work so when I had when I was faced with going to counseling<br> therapy 3 times a week I had no idea what to expect I grew up without a father and a whole life and he kind of male figure that I was just told me you being there and they're not walk it off roofs and burning it any time things got hard in my life and I need to talk to somebody about it which is the most unhealthy thing you can do of course as you know so I basically just had no contacts or what therapy is going to be like so I was like well I know that if I put on a suit and go to work I kill it so I'm going to do the same thing here cuz I'm going to give us 100% I'm trying to save my marriage so I basically just dress really nice now. Every every time but has started off going with both seats do my therapy sessions and that what I realized I was doing what they was giving me the confidence to get in touch with myself through that experience and talk about my feelings<br> so I after my wife and I got through that time we have to be careful cuz now we're doing great marriage is definitely better than I never even expected now so that is awesome but during that time of putting in the work and I didn't have anything else other than my clothes I would be Hollow going to my business was at work while I was working through this thing with my wife then the only thing I had my life giving me any kind of confidence was getting dressed in the morning so after we got through a tough time I was like you know that the clothes really helped me get in touch with myself and I bet you I can figure out a way to help other men that have experienced this do the same so that's where the idea for an errand I came up and I knew it was something with that kind of got the business model of date for profit and non-profit sectors inside of it I knew it was something I had to do so I sold my businesses and when in full force<br> wow and so I am back tingling here is your talking because it seems sort of Elementary that we could that we would know this intuitively right that we are creative beans recipe shift energy around us and so something that seems no so basic can have such a deep and profound impact on how we feel how we carry yourself you know so it at that way as you were talking I was thinking some of the things like my mom used to say and I say to my children if you stand up straight you'll feel better right if you know if you don't slouch you know and all of these things right so if you put on a suit or you know and my kids mother would say if you put on a dress and some high heels I bet you'll feel a little better right and so be it in in its true right so we can use everything we can use this is not too masculine and I know where am I saying you know and I know you're not saying that either we're not saying to me<br> ask what you're feeling cuz honestly you were dealing with that you were in therapy but this these are AIDS that can help you to shift the energy around you a little bit and I think that is so great so and you talked about some of that I guess the unfortunate phrases and things that go along as we hear people say no man up or you know suck it up buttercup and all that sort of thing to me. Over the years how can we as a culture work to change this as we relate to our young boys and young men in the men in our life how can we change that sort of the culture of that<br> yeah before I answer that I just want to address the fact to that being a man in today's society is I think so much harder than it was even in this the 50-60 is kind of area where you know you have that whole world out of the stigma came from because our target market for these clothes specifically are you know professional men ages I think it's are letting our Target demographic is between 25 and 55 and the reason for that is because one man dies by suicide every minute of every day globally and most of those men I think it's something like three out of five of those men that commit suicide are in the professional space between that age range because Society has put on so many<br> just you have to provide for your family you have to make money you have to be in charge of the employees you have to all of these kind of pressures from everyday life without an outlet to express because hey man you're you're supposed to just man up and do it and you're supposed to suck it up that's just that's just the stigma do we as a society live with with minister in charge of all of this in against the society's view not mine but like decided to use a man as you have to provide for your family have to go get a job you have to go to work you have to be in charge of this you have to be in charge of that especially if you're not tripping or he has to be in charge of other people and the pressures can be<br> and are just earth-shattering for people and it's enough to it's enough for that statistic to to be a thing so that's kind of where we're looking at trying to help guys as the you know 25 to 25 plus he really just guy in the professional space that's just beaten down every day going to work and being down by Justice Crushers as societies putting on them I'm looking at real Outlet so that's kind of cool or trying to reach here and as a society since your question to move on past that I think we need to normalize what is it like to be in touch with myself what is it like to know what my body is feeling why do I feel depressed or why do I feel sad because everyone experiences that at some point and that's just part of the human emotion Spectrum I think<br> but how you deal with it is I think the first step in giving men permission is the first step to Healing this kind of stigma that we have but giving them permission to talk about their feelings and giving us permission to look Inward and just be curious about why did that make me upset why did that really set me off for trigger me in the situation with my boss or whatever it is and start asking those kind of questions I think it's tough on<br> yeah I love it and I got to say and you were talking a lot about the movement behind the clothing but the clothing line is just superb very very I don't know classy sexy and rugged all the same time so I think that it is there's something at there was a song in the 80s A well-dressed man I think that was the name of the song. Something about A well-dressed man and that is not only pleasing probably to him but to go to the onlookers as well so that is that is it's good to look good so I know we're focusing a lot on the movement but the clothing absolutely beautiful what I mean what got I know what why you wanted to dress nicely to get through that book that you have any background and designing and folding what where did that come from<br> yeah that's a great question so when I started the company I didn't want to make things that just fell apart after a couple uses like some of these fast fashion brands I want to actually take a full bespoke or custom suiting process and bring it to you that every day may I didn't say these clothes are meant to last a lifetime and that's actually how we need to look at these garments and items that we make because you know I don't go into it too much but like the fast fashion brands and things like that just killing the Earth and all this kind of stuff and it's kind of like resetting your perception of really high quality clothing and really well design clothing should last you minimum 10-year and that's how it used to be actually in the 50s<br> but we kind of lost sight of that anyways kind of have too much construction and still part of her brain is actually being able to perform at level is like a Gucci are similar things like that but bringing it back in terms of just<br> ease of access to Every Man Has I would say so when I got into it when I start his company I was like I'm not going to be making stuff that just falls apart I need to make it really high and I needed to be really I needed to be designed to really well and I've always been kind of an immense were married I would say since I was about fifteen I don't have it I didn't have any experience though and the retail Department I just knew like so many random facts about menswear like why we have a ticket pocket for example and Blazers and Mike what picks did she has all these kind of different pocket Stiles and me like that just specifically because it's fascinated me for such a long time because it the craftsmanship I'm also really it's a lot just for the same reason like the craftsmanship and precision that it takes to make a well-tailored garment is just impressive to me so I didn't have any experience do it yet but I had experience being a big nerd about it<br> can you find you follow me follow your passion which is we talked a lot about here on everyday piece show is connecting to our passion and selling out to our true self and our desires and serving other people with our passion so use you it's no wonder that you are successful and will continue to be successful because you would have a model that's built on serving other people while connecting to your passion so what resources can you share with our listeners to help men who may be struggling with their current self-expression obviously through the clothing but I know that's your model what else would you suggest like a man who may be in that you said you know one man at 1 every minute globally is a victim of suicide<br> what are we looking at the clay could possibly be something that could stop that are slow that down<br> so two things there I was saying one is actually making a mental health and positive mental Wellness a practice in your everyday life are you familiar with Mel Robbins cuz I just listen to a podcast she was on this morning so that's like<br> what is so funny because her her quick little thing is that she believes that if you high-five yourself in the mirror you start to humanize the person you're looking at said of critiquing on what is Tamia form of self-love and self-care which is the top of the list for me and how you can change your perception of yourself into a human being like you're not just looking at someone in the mirror saying all you need to fix your hair you need to lose a few pounds like whatever it is wishing you looked better or wishing at a different physique it's look at the person than mere like you would a stranger and saying hey man you're doing a good job no matter what it is even if it's just getting out of bed in the morning you start to humanize this person you're looking at and so logistically I think that's a great trait had to do is go in the mirror and look at yourself and don't look at yourself as this is me I'm looking at look at yourself cuz this is a human being<br> looking at and I need to have this human beings back as as much as I would have any one of my friends backs or my family's backs or anything like that and that changes Emeritus you know that changes the narrative<br> it's a beautiful seeing yourself as a as a human being instead of a person who's failed or person who's overworked or person who's not good enough and they're going in and actually looking in your eyes and seeing yourself as a human being who really trying and just getting getting if there's something that's exciting and life-affirming about effort you know nevermind not focusing the results just efforts to get at you know I think it's so cool that you just keep trying like that I'm at I admire that so I think that's a very good suggestion I hope that our listeners way to take that to heart to look at them self in the mirror that high five thing I got to admit to is it makes me smile you know it when you smile at yourself to you to smile at yourself you know you realize oh my gosh I'm not perfect and you never going to meet another perfect person so that's absolutely okay don't know weird we are getting our listeners buying your clothing line how can they purchase<br> yeah so we are on everything like we are naming conventions are all the same so it's really easy to find us so this is inherent. Cam is our website and then same thing for our Instagram Facebook is this isn't a parent<br> oh I love that love that before we came on are you were telling you that you have a new line coming up really soon call the Steve McQueen drivers collection tell us a little bit about that<br> yeah absolutely I'm so excited about this so it's called Steve McQueen by an errant it's a driving capsule collection so it's going to have like amazing leather working at Amazon La drivers gloves from Italy it's going to have some incredible Weekender bags toiletry wash bags kind of deal wallets and so this is kind of our first delve into more leatherworking stuff but I'm really excited about that at all also have you know Steve McQueen's classic laser from bullet is turtle neck from blowing car code ESRD top coat from bullet and Tom Crown Affair and things like that but we kind of really wanted to capture the essence of Steve McQueen and also bring a whole new level of like modern cuts to it and like iron fabrics and things like that so really excited about it since I was a boy<br> of my my kids is movies in the 70s or gray and more importantly he he was really outspoken about his depression and anxiety and even has a nonprofit called the boys republic that helped him get through these things when he was a lad and yeah it's just such a great alignment for our brand and such a such a dream come true for me to bring that the first officially licensed Steve McQueen driving collection in the world<br> I think it's such a good deal you know as you would mention him I was thinking you know mental health has been so spotlighted especially among celebrities in oh my gosh in the last few years and I think that's so wonderful that wears mainstreaming this topic so that perhaps we'll have less people who suffer in silence and they realize that this is more prevalent than you would think I'm there is a tendency for people who are suffering and this way to isolate and believe that there is just them but from the work that you're doing and many other people in the industry's it's helping to I will say normalize it but helping us to realize how prevalent it is that people go through things in their life for which they need support<br> and it's a shame you know really all of us emotionally are quite fragile we collect a lot of stuff in there and if you don't have that support network through organizations and companies like yours were very outspoken and to therapist and clergy and and all of that we don't have all that we do risk losing more and more people to the unfortunate hands of suicide or just isolation you know missing out on a lot of contribution from people who would otherwise be contributing a lot but because they can't get assistance to get over the hurdle of mental health in Weatherby depression anxiety would have you so I really applaud you for that work I think it is astonishing that I bet twenty-five 2 Age 55 that you're saying that globally one man every one minute being lost to suicide<br> that I didn't have that statistic before because I'm thinking about that that's that's what those those pivotal years a lot of things are happening there beginning careers in there with the stress of a family and trying to build an advance in a career there are a lot of things that are happening there and I think a lot of times with all of that growth happening in that short span of time mental health gets pushed to the side exactly a priority for yourself to what do I need to feel okay every day and make time for that<br> yeah what in really and I think that's new conversation to take what I got to say that I still hear a lot of men you know it and I know there's a lot of comfort in sports but you know it's not the same as when women get together I don't think unless unless I'm missing out on something but women tend to have those deep heartfelt conversation about you and this hurts and I can't get over this hurdle after 1 just empty nest it until I was able to turn to a lot of women and say hey it is as heart-wrenching as useless as they say it can't wait for them to grow up and then they grow up and go on and you can't figure out you can't catch your footing for a few minutes on that but I don't necessarily know if that type of tribe exist for men amongst men to be able to say you know I'm under a lot of pressure and this is what I'm feeling this is what you do I'm feeling boxed in or close down on heard<br> yeah it's it's so amazing that you that you mention that because that is exactly what our nonprofit event model is so every month we do a week off at all go not the sports thing but we caught a huddle that we do in our shop third Thursday of every month at 7 p.m. and we only have one rule when you walk in the door at which is if someone asks how you're doing don't just say fine I'm good I'm actually be honest with yourself if you're struggling and I still have to tell us why are struggling making to say I'm struggling today I'm not doing well today or if you're doing great you can say yeah just close this huge deal or like today was awesome and I got a promotion or whatever it was that made a great share that so we can celebrate with you so it's in its incredible because I let you know just as a plant cystic to only 5% of men seek out patient resources so things like therapy counseling divorce Counseling group therapy<br> whatever it might be only 5% of men actively seek that so one of the things that we do in our Advanced as we have that rule when you walk in the door and then we have an iPad that's just like would you like to be connected with any of these resources here I'm going to has all those people in there a therapist to worse counselors life coaching and you know eating disorder help or whatever it might be that we've made friends with your other nonprofits and we had just north of 55% of guys that it's in their events select one of those to be connected with so again and it really goes back to getting men permission and just saying hey just be real and you have permission in your safe here you know that lines that we do have a car waiting<br> hello you're on the air with Doctor dream on James in every day peace we have Taylor Draper on the line if you have a question or a comet Taylor I think what you're doing is wonderful and I like you talk I'm an older so I know about Steve McQueen and and you guys who dress that way back in the day and so I really appreciate what you doing because you are you're opening up the eyes of young people to a style of dress that is elegant and if the same time you're working out people you and dr. James to talkin earlier about a doctor game so how do we change the narrative about you know men can't cry blah blah blah those kind of things and what what what I found interesting to me is that males don't express their emotions probably in ways they would like to not give his brief example<br> go on Tik-Tok a lot you see when females a dancing and they're saying it's better that seems to be no inhibitions Sonic guys do that what that says to me is that this is a male who truly in touch with his feelings because he's not ashamed to do that you know men only will not deal with my things because they're seen as being something unless you're an Entertainer so when I see on Tik Tok guy stop breaking out in song in the grocery store or something like that that says to me that this is a person who's in touch and I think that when you're not afraid to express those emotions cuz they're all in all the mail in unfortunate lot of times are expressed in very negative ways violent verbal and physical violence those sort of things because we have to get them out so I'm saying hard to say that I love what you're doing I love the conversation you and Uncle James are having about males getting to a point where you're expressing that because it's there and I think when we do express it it's a good sign<br> 1 mental health growth and by not bothering these things in I think it gives you the opportunity to this really feel as a person and I think that takes it's a long way to a kind of changing The Narrative of how men act how men see things that how many perceived that's only going to change if we as men change it so wonderful this is a great show great show but I really wanted to say Taylor Draper and the inherent line of clothing thank you so much for the work that you're doing Natalie and fashion for for mental health in men and for our everyday peacemakers I believe in you I absolutely love you until next week<br> you've been listening to Everyday peaks with Dr Trevon James you have the power right now today to make the decisions to take the actions that leave you to your next level of greatness and I would love to hear some ways we can connect schedule a coaching session contact me again foa Dr.Dre Ron James. 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