FORGIVENESS

Let’s look at the flip side of anger. What is anger after all? Love turned inside out. For if there was no love, then how could there be anger? You would have no reason to be angry if there was not a sense of love lost. Right?

Let’s presume that you have quarreled with a lover. The quarrel alone is enough to be devastating; but now there is anger, revenge and vindictiveness. So now you have not only done what was done unto you, but significantly more. Do you see it any other way?

What would you presume the lover to do with the problem that had gone unaddressed to begin with? Had communication been attempted, but ignored?

Had inquiries been done as to the stability of the relationship? Had your rejection been taken by you as a lack of love?

Well tell me, why would someone attempt to communicate with you if there was a lack of love? If you had the hindsight to stop the occurrence that was done to you, what might you have done to make things better?

Would you stop and smell the roses? Would you sit in a mountain waterfall with your kids? Would you skinny dip in the night with your spouse? Well, what is stopping you from doing those things now? Please don’t tell me that it is your pride or this friend or that. And please don’t tell me that it is your mother, your brother or your neighbor. Because these people don’t know all of the facts.

Did you tell them you had a lover that loved you, but was ignored? Did you tell them that your lover spent days and nights alone?

Did you tell them that your lover had to compete with your hobbies as you did your lover’s?

Oh no, you forgot these significant aspects of the problem. You forgot to set forth all of the facts. So how can you expect to get adequate advice, much less good advice.

Did you tell them that you and your lover wanted to be together but were just lost? Did you ask them for a guidepost to find the trail? Or did you seek to tell them your anger in support of an unfair trial?

See, my most powerful being, you are in the hotspot now for something that never really happened.

Did you tell them that you enjoyed nothing more than being with this lover and this lover you? Or did you tell them how awful this wonderful lover is?

Is this lover really that awful? Are you really as awful inside as your behavior has reflected? Of course not. And that is what forgiveness is all about.

How wonderful is it to make up after a fight?

How wonderful is it to recover from a long struggle?

How wonderful is it to have a drink of water for a thirst?

Well then how wonderful would it be to recover from a fight you would never win? For no matter the outcome there are no winners when it comes to anger unresolved.

There are no winners derived from hate. There are no winners derived from energy lost. Because once lost it is gone forever.

Tell me, most powerful being, are you a fighter in this chaotic world? Then tell me what is it you fight for? Your dignity and pride? Or the souls left for your safe keeping? I am not sure what it is you find so hard to choose between those two.

A being of virtue or a being of pride?

A being of loss or a being of gain and growth?

A being of love or a being of hate?

A being of weakness or a being of strength?

A being of light or a being of darkness? For darkness is the home of misery. Which is it you now feel? And what does that tell you?

Listen to the calling of your soul, for it is the calling of your soul that will lead you to the right path.

After all, what is it you seek but the yearning of your soul?

What is it that would make your darkest hours light? Would it not be the loss of your heavy heart? Would that not bring light to your life?

I AM are the two most powerful words in the universe. I AM this, I AM that. So what exactly are you?

Are you majestic or are you false?

Are you the stakes of support or the stockade of binding?

Are you the humility of God or are you the wrath of evil?

Only you know what you are because you are the owner of your heart.

How many souls do you plan to take down with your anger and hate?

Or shall I say how many souls will you lift up with your love and delight?

How long must you wait to determine your path?

Or how long will it take for you to continue your wrath?

Your life is waiting and so is that lover. Or will your life continue fleeing upon the wrong path?

It is your choice most powerful being. The choice of your lifetime… your wrath or your love.

What shall you do, what shall you do? Listen dear soul to the call of your heart. Listen dear soul to the minutes tick by. Listen dear soul to the cries in your ears, for the cries in your ears will continue to grow… all simply based on the seeds that you sow.

Forgiveness dear soul is the key to your life.

Forgiveness dear soul will show you the light.

Forgiveness dear soul will lift you to heights.

Forgiveness dear soul will bring all your delights.

Now go out dear soul and choose your path.

Look not for destruction but for look for repair. Look to your God to guide you through tears.

Look to your loved ones for they are who cares.

Forgiveness is definitely one of the character traits hardest to accomplish, but once mastered, pretty much always mastered. It is definitely a characteristic trait that is learned, and doesn’t necessarily come naturally but is a significant key to happiness in your life.

Walking around carrying hate for someone whose behavior has hurt you can ruin your life because happiness avoids those who hate. If you can accept that no one can hurt you, that it is merely your response to their behaviors that hurt you, then you can accept that you can be happy no matter what one does to you. It is your focus on what was, not what really is, that hurts you.

If you can combat that anger that resides within you against your enemy you will not only facilitate peace and tranquility, but satisfaction that you have done your best in a situation gone bad. When you accomplish this not only you win, but those loved ones and friends that have to be around you. No one has to bear your constant anger and negativity.

There was once a man walking down the road. This man was angry at the world because he was walking and they were driving. But what the man didn’t realize was that he got to smell the flowers while the drivers smelled fumes. Why is it you think this man didn’t stop and smell the flowers? Why is it you think this man didn’t see that these people were choked on fumes? Was it that this man’s nose was stopped up by his life of conditioning? This man was conditioned that stopping to smell the flowers was failing. Failing at his life that was expected. Expected by whom you ask? By society at large. Society has conditioned the masses that if you are not wealthy with tangible items that you are a failure and being a failure at society’s expectations had made him angry at the world. So this man, instead of stopping to smell the flowers has walked around angry at the world for something that is not even wrong. Can you imagine doing that?

Well how many of you complain about having to drive your cars everyday to work? Would you rather walk?

How many of you complain about too much work? Would you rather have none?

Have many of you complain about not playing enough but spend your playtime watching tv?

Well which is it, acceptance of your life the way it is and forgiveness of those around you? Or walking around miserable complaining something is wrong that really isn’t?

It is your life, but believe it or not there are no choices. You will live the life that God intends to live through you whether you like it or not. Happiness or sadness is simply a chemical reaction to those things happening around you. So why do you walk around trying to change something that cannot be changed? Simply control the chemical secretions by acceptance and forgiveness of those people and things occurring in your life. By doing these things you can make your life as happy as you want it to be no matter what your circumstances.

You are not in control of the occurrences, but you are in control of your emotional responses to these occurrences and it is not as hard as you think it is. We are not here to begin with so why is it so hard to forgive someone for something they didn’t do. It is the conditioning of mankind that inhibits forgiveness. Rise above society at large and control your happiness as well as induce it in others. You will be surprised at what you find out.

Agape my friends, that’s what its all about.